A great guy— a super smart guy— I know is ALWAYS* making excuses. Excuses for smaller things like perpetually being late; for changing plans; for not showing up; for why he can’t run.
Excuses for big things like why he never finished school or got a better job.
Always— ALWAYS apologizing afterwards for not doing what he said he would do.
I know I am not perfect. I make excuses from time to time. But I work on this. He thinks saying “I’m sorry” is the equivalent of getting an absolution for whatever thing he did— or more likely, didn’t— do.
I think he behaves this way b/c he is afraid and that is why I have felt compassion for him for so long. I understand that it can be scary to take responsibility for your actions.
This line in the article: “…excuses turn other people off–so your excuses will repel people from you…” directly describes how I feel about him right now. I give people SO many chances but after awhile (17 yrs? wow), even my patience wears thin.
*i rarely use the terms “always” or “never.” so these are strong statements for me to make.
Another good excuse to exorcise.